How Pastors Ruin Their Small Group Ministries

By Allen White

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Quit looking for a magic bullet.

A while back I watched a webcast of a pastor announcing a new small group model at his church. Their current model had connected roughly half of their members into groups, but it wasn’t attracting the other half. He felt the solution was to scrap their current model and move to a new model. I actually screamed at my computer, “No! Why are you wrecking what works for half of your people? It’s working for them.”
The pastor went on to explain that now about 60 percent of the 50 percent already in groups were embracing the new model. I chose to withhold my applause. Why? Because he already had those folks in groups! If only two-thirds of the people already in groups were signing on to the new thing, isn’t that actually going backwards?
The Most Important Thing I’ve Ever Said
Pastor, there is no one strategy or model that will appeal to your entire congregation. It doesn’t exist. At our church in California, we connected 125 percent of our average adult attendance into groups by using five different strategies simultaneously. But, wasn’t that confusing to the groups? Actually, it wasn’t. Each group only used one strategy. Was it confusing to me? That actually doesn’t matter, does it?
I’ve met a lot of pastors who want to shutter their old school Sunday school to get everyone into home groups. In fact, after seminars pastors have come up to me and said as much. I would tell them, “I know what your spiritual gift is?” Now, I had their attention. “You have the gift of martyrdom.” Of course, as Rick Warren says, the problem is you can only use that gift one time.
If It Ain’t Broke…
If Sunday School works for some of your people, run Sunday School. Don’t expect everyone to go to Sunday School, even though the old song says they “ought” to. If one type of group works for most, but not for all, then let those group work for most. Do something else with the rest.
Why Do Pastors Long for a Magic Bullet?
If one strategy could connect every member in our church, if one model could work for everyone, it would be a pastor’s dream come true. Why? Because it’s efficient or dare I say, convenient. For busy pastors, it’s easier to manage one system, not three.
Variety is the New Uniformity
Your members are looking for variety, not uniformity. Look at how many car models were made last year. Look at how many new books appear on the shelves of Barnes & Noble. Look at how many ways you can drink coffee at Starbucks. The Blue Plate Special died 50 years ago.
What is a Small Group Anyway?
Why do you have small groups? Coolness is not the right answer. Merely forming small groups could contribute to more problems. Rather than individuals leaving the church, now they might leave linking arms. (Keep reading. It’s okay.) If groups offer care, encouragement, fellowship, Bible study and leadership development, can that only happen in a small group? What if a Sunday School class was accomplishing those things? What if your existing groups were already doing that? Isn’t this meeting your goal? Isn’t this building people up?

Do New Things with New People
Rather than forcing them into the existing model, discover what will work for them. Men don’t join groups for the same reasons as women. Younger generations are motivated differently than older generations. Some folks will join because they ought to. Others will see what’s in it for them. Still others will see a chance to make a difference together. And, some will think the whole thing is lame. That’s okay.
One Size Does Not Fit All
When I arrived at Brookwood Church in Simpsonville, South Carolina, about 30 percent of the adults were in groups. It was a solid foundation. We had on-campus groups, off-campus groups, Beth Moore Bible study groups, and the Holy Smokers, who focus on Bible and barbecue. We launched lots of new groups through church-wide campaigns. We connected hundreds of new folks to groups. We gained another 30 percent in groups. Sixty percent ain’t bad.
But, as I became better acquainted with the congregation, I discovered that some in the Bible belt really were intimidated by the Bible. They didn’t join a small group because they were afraid they would have nothing to contribute to the discussion. Whoa. In California, we just asked folks to do a study with their friends. They did it. But, this was a whole other deal.
We created large groups for men, women, young couples, business people, law enforcement and senior adults. These are what Carl George calls “fishing ponds.” Large groups where people can move from the crowd of a 2,500 seat auditorium to a living room of 10-12 people.
We offered a solid recreation ministry for adults and children. We created a system of classes called BrookwoodU where people could get to know each other in a class on cooking, digital photography, leadership, Microsoft Word, sign language and even Hermeneutics. (Many friendships were forged in their hermeneutical fox holes.)
I didn’t join the staff of a megachurch to start classes or to send seniors to Branson, Missouri. But, those not connected into groups didn’t necessarily care about what I wanted. What did they need?
After four years, we reached 78 percent connected in small groups, large groups, and BrookwoodU. We didn’t get to 100 percent, but maybe next year.
You wouldn’t transition small groups to a Sunday School model. Build on what’s working. Then, figure out what you can add to that. And, for the pastor on the webcast, I wish you well. 

Allen White is the Senior Project Director and Small Group Strategist for Lifetogether Ministries (lifetogether.com). Over the last 20 years, he has led the small groups ministry in two churches (South Carolina and California) and has coached hundreds of churches across North America.
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