Jumat, 05 September 2014

Is your church plant investing in and serving your cimmunity now?

Is Your Church Plant Investing In and Serving Your Community NOW?

Don't wait to launch or "get established" to focus on your community's needs. Building Jesus' Kingdom requires you to build the community at all phases of planting.

Exponential guest post by Ron Edmondson

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I love this picture…New Life Community Church Chicago Pastor Mark Jobe (left) engages with Chicago Mayor Rahm Emanuel (right) to focus on the challenges of providing safer environments and better role models for the city’s school children. IMG_0683.JPG
I saw it on Mark Jobe’s Facebook page. Mark is a pastor of a church I greatly admire in Chicago. Actually, as a church planter and revitalizer, I’ve probably referred people to New Life (and a video of their work I keep bookmarked) as much as any other church. New Life is doing what I believe is some of the best, hardest and most needed work in church growth today. They come alongside an older, declining, established church and breathe “new life” into them, helping them reach the community again. Granted, many other churches are doing similar work.
But I have been to New Life and had the opportunity to talk with Mark a few times, so he’s one doing this type ministry I’m familiar with most. I don’t know Mark well—but we are close enough to be Facebook friends.
In this picture, Pastor Mark (left) is walking with Chicago Mayor Rahm Emanuel (right). According to the caption on his Facebook page, Mark was “discussing with the mayor the challenges of providing a safer environment and better role models for Chicago school children.”
I’m struck by the thought that this picture provides further proof of something I’ve believed for some time. Something I’ve been living and preaching. It’s how I’m trying to do church growth today.
To be a Kingdom-building pastor, you MUST be a community-building pastor. Okay, maybe must is too strong a word. And let me be clear: There are many other effective models of doing ministry than Mark’s and certainly mine. But being a community builder seems to be at least one of the more effective ways I’m seeing churches grow these days.
People aren’t coming to our big buildings anymore—or our small buildings. We must go to them. Shortly after I arrived in Lexington, Kentucky, I passed a historical marker for the oldest home in our city. It was built for a Presbyterian pastor. The marker explains what a difference that pastor had on the city— not just as a pastor— but as a community leader. That’s because years ago pastors used to be at the center of everything in a community. Pastors were community leaders—game changers in the community. They garnered respect through visibility and activity. People listened to them and wanted their opinion, mostly because people knew them well enough to respect them. They weren’t just faces on a raised platform on Sunday. They were seen in the community during the week. They were friends. Town folk.
One of my mentors, a pastor now in his mid-90s, helped start a small business almost seventy years ago that is still thriving today in the community where his first pastorate was located. How? He walked the man desiring to open a business over to the bank and told the community banker to “give this young man a chance.” He got the loan. The pastor got a generous church donor. (Funny how that works.) Because this pastor was respected by the banker, he could march over to the bank with a prospective loan.
Now, I realize things have changed. Banks don’t operate like that anymore. I’m not saying they ever will again. Most likely not. But, not everything has to change. The fact is we didn’t just stop influencing the bankers; we stopped influencing our communities. Many times we left the public square to hide behind our pulpits. And I get it. For so long, they came to us. We would build it—buildings and parking lots and programs—and they filled them. We may have needed to wait for some tragic or life-altering events to occur in their life. But at some point they would come. I’m sure you’ve discovered hat doesn’t always work anymore—at least not as easily.
I’m convinced, many times people don’t trust us as much because they don’t know us as much. I haven’t been in full-time vocational ministry long. I came out of the business world where I was very involved in community functions. Frankly, in my experience, the pastors who were active in community efforts weren’t respected because of the way they went about trying to make a difference. I know because I heard my friends who weren’t Christians talk about it. (That experience has greatly shaped my approach to doing ministry. Leading in the community—hoping to be a Kingdom builder.) You knew what these pastors were against, but you didn’t know what they were for. You knew what they didn’t like about the community, but you didn’t know what they liked about it. You knew they took resources from the community to operate their programs, but you didn’t know how they gave anything back. Honestly, they were seen more as antagonistic than helpful in changing the community for good. The community won’t stand for that anymore.
I realize much of that is perception more than reality (most pastors and churches do love their community, even if it’s not always visible). If the local church does its job of making disciples of those who attend, the church should be helping the community by giving back citizens who have more joy, patience, love, etc. Who doesn’t want that? (I’ll let someone else decide if a particular church is actually producing Christlike disciples.)
But wasn’t Jesus visible, known and well-liked in the community?
Sure, the people eventually rejected Him, but that was part of the divine plan. He knew the rejection was coming—yet that didn’t deter Him from loving the people outside the walls of the synagogue. Jesus proved you could be in the world without being shaped by the world. And by being in the world, we stand a far better chance of helping shape it. Frankly, if all the community knows are the perceptions they see—and those perceptions are more against a community than for it—I don’t blame people for rejecting our message.
And, so, I contend again… To be a Kingdom-building pastor you must be a community-building pastor. So your church plant should be addressing your community’s greatest needs. Like Mark Jobe and New Life, you need to be involved in your community’s schools. You need to know the leaders of your city and schools and help them understand you’re here to be part of the solution—not to add to the stress of their jobs. (Start by asking leaders, “How can we serve?” and be open to serving in small ways, as well as ready to mobilize volunteers.) You and your plant need to earn the respect of people in the community—some who will never enter the doors of your church—so that you can help build your community. Only then can we most effectively build the Kingdom today. And, in my honest opinion, it’s the right thing to do even if your church plant never grows another member from it.
So, let me ask you some sobering questions as you pray for and lead your church plant:
  • Church planter, how are you investing in your community right now? Do you have a plan to increase that investment over the next three to five years?
  • How are you becoming a community leader/influencer?
  • Does the community know you?
  • If so, do they like who they are getting to know?
Ron Edmondson pastor at Immanuel Baptist Church and a church leader passionate about planting new churches, helping established churches thrive and helping pastors and those in ministry think through leadership, strategy and life. Ron also consults with church and ministry leaders. You can find his thoughts on leadership, family and church online at his blog Ron Edmondson.
Note: Mark Jobe will be one of five leaders (including Dave Ferguson, Jon Ferguson, Dave Gibbons, Mark DeYmaz and Geoff Surratt) participating in the Multisite Leadership Forum at Exponential West. Learn more about the Forum and speakers here. 
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Perfect Isn't the Point

by Jill Savage



To go deeper on the topic of women and perfection, see Seeing the Best in Him and The Best Mom Ever.
I was putting the finishing touches on the sweet potatoes when I realized that the Jell-O salad I'd made for dinner didn't set. The rolls I'd made from scratch weren't rising, and our youngest son was having a meltdown. Then my husband phoned to let me know he would be home late. My plan for a perfect evening was unraveling.
Many of us long to create the "perfect" family, but more often than not, we fall off the pedestal of our own expectations. We long for quiet, but children are naturally loud. We desire a neat home, but family life inevitably brings clutter.
Too often we set up our husband, our family and ourselves for failure. We have a fantasy picture in our mind of how our day or an event will unfold. When our expectation doesn't play out, we find ourselves frustrated, disappointed and even angry.
Perfectionism isn't healthy for us or our relationships. It feeds discontent. It fosters judgment. It causes us to compare our insides with other people's outsides.
When we expect our kids to be perfect, we become a controlling mom. When we expect our husband to be perfect, we become a criticizing wife. When we expect ourselves to be perfect, we heap judgment on our failures and become our own worst enemy.
So how do we break the chains of unrealistic expectations? How do we get out from under the pressure of perfectionism? It all starts with grace.
God sees the best in us. His grace frees us from striving. It accepts. It heals. And more important, it equips us to give the gift of grace to one another.
Moving from disappointment to grace requires two shifts in perspective. First, we need to shift our perspective from who we think is in control (us) to who is really in control (God). When we trust that God knows what He's doing, we become more flexible, especially when things don't go as we planned.
The other perspective change is this: The moment in which we find ourselves is just as important as the moment we planned to be in. We need to embrace "what is" instead of dwelling on "what could have been." When we allow God to lead and we embrace the moments we're given, our hearts become compassionate and flexible.
A grace-filled mom handles her kids' shortcomings with love. A grace-filled wife allows her husband to make mistakes without holding his failures against him. A grace-filled woman sees herself through God's eyes and resists the temptation to beat herself up when she falls short of perfection. By moving away from unrealistic expectations, we crawl out from under the pressure of perfectionism.
Coming to grips with my unrealistic expectations of a perfect evening, I sat down with my kids to eat our imperfect meal. When my husband got home an hour later, he had dinner as we sat at the table talking together. Then we enjoyed ice cream sundaes with the kids (not a part of my original plan), and the evening was filled with laughter, love and grace.
Jill Savage is the founder of Hearts at Home and author of eight books, including No More Perfect Moms.

This article appeared in the August/September 2013 issue of Thriving Family magazine. Copyright © 2013 by Jill Savage. Used by permission. ThrivingFamily.com.

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FailureFailure doesn’t have to be final. In fact, I believe God wants to put our failures to work for us. Everybody experiences defeats in life. Everybody has failures. The book of Proverbs has a lot of insight into what causes failure. Five different things that cause failure in our life according to the book of Proverbs:
1. We fail when we don’t plan ahead.
It’s like the old saying, “If you fail to plan you’re planning to fail.” Proverbs 27:12 says, “A sensible man watches for problems ahead and prepares to meet them. But the simple minded man never looks and suffers the consequences.” Are you simple-minded? Some of us have a tendency to be impulsive. Yet the sensible man plans ahead. The impulsive person never looks ahead and suffers the consequences.
Proverbs 16:9 also says, “We ought to make our plans counting on God to direct us.” One of the reasons we fail is we just don’t plan. Was it raining when Noah built the ark? No. It didn’t rain for 120 years. That’s what I call long-range planning. For 120 years he worked on that ark. Jesus told the story about a man who built a building and before he got it finished he had to give up because he hadn’t planned ahead. We fail because we don’t plan.
2. We fail when we think we’ve arrived.
Proverbs 18:18 “Pride leads to destruction and arrogance to downfall.” When we think we’ve got it all together, watch out. You’re never going to get anywhere if you think you’re already there.
Pride causes us to fail. One of the symptoms of pride is we don’t think we need any advice. “I’ve got it all together. I don’t need anybody. Me and Jesus, we’ve got a good thing going. I don’t need anybody to tell me what it’s all about.”
3. We fail when we are afraid to take risks.
Proverbs 25:29 tells us that the “Fear of man is a dangerous trap but to trust in God means safety.” The moment you start to worry about what other people think, you’re doomed. It’s a trap.
The greatest failure is the failure to try. When I die I want four words written on my tombstone: “At least he tried.” For the glory of God. You’ve got to take risks. That’s what brings abundance. That’s what brings success in life. Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb, that’s where the fruit is. We’re afraid to take risks and we fail.
4. We fail because we give up too soon.
The trouble with many people that during trying times they just stop trying. Failure is the path of least persistence. How many ball games have been won in the last seconds? Keep on keeping on. Never give up.
Proverbs 15:19 says, “A lazy fellow has trouble all through life.” If at first you don’t succeed, you’re normal. Try again. Many times success is right around the corner. You are never a failure until you quit.
5. We fail when we don’t listen to God.
The number one reason we fail is that we don’t listen to God. Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to man but in the end it leads to death.” God’s word is filled with guidelines and principles to make our life all that God wants it to be. But most of the time we want to listen to our feelings, “I feel that this is the right thing to do, even if God’s word says it differently.”
The fact is, God’s word is usually the opposite of our natural inclinations. God says the way to get is to give, the way to be honored is to be humbled, the way to greatness is to be a servant. When we don’t listen to God, we’re in trouble. Lack of prayer causes a lot of failure.
Regardless of the cause, we all fail. What matters most is what you do when you fail. God is more interested in your future than He is in your past. The Bible shows us a way to get a fresh start, and I’ll write more about that in part two.
photo credit: ktpupp


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